I would simply tell her that you understand she's looking for a job, but you just gave her $200, and for that you had to move things around. You are taking care of the bills, but you cannot keep sending extra money.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I would simply tell her that you understand she's looking for a job, but you just gave her $200, and for that you had to move things around. You are taking care of the bills, but you cannot keep sending extra money.
Right. The "I just need a yes or no" is pissing me off.
She mentioned selling some stock to me (to avoid the E-trade commission if she sold it to someone else). I might be interested in that. But this is too quick.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Just called W, she said she understands I'm really busy. She said "don't worry about it, I got a loan. It will just be really tight the next couple weeks."
I complemented her on being so resourceful (it is really amazing that she can get a loan in her situation). I told her she'll be fine, and I'm still interested in talking about the stock.
So glad I didn't rush into giving her $500.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Good deal! Sometimes these things have an interesting way of working themselves out.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Was looking back at texts, and found this from middle of the night last Tuesday:
"if i can come up there during the week, may I stay w/ you? And get last load of stuff"
I want to respond to this, but need advice on how.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
What do you want? I'm sure you want her to stay with you. What else does she need? Sounds to me like getting the last load of stuff is an excuse to see you, and stay with you. Maybe text, "you can stay (if you behave ). What else do you need? I'll box it for you. No, you cannot have the Dyson."
I don't know. Need to think on this one. Maybe let her ask again.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Oh, I definitely want her to come and stay. Just didn't know how to bring it back up after the financial stuff today.
I'll probably just wait. She should know she's welcome any time. My best-case at this point is that she stays here whenever she has a doctor appointment, and we rebuild our friendship that way.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Dear dear Jon: That may be true, but from a woman's perspective, sometimes we just like to hear it.
(((Jon)))
Lola
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
). What else do you need? I'll box it for you. No, you cannot have the Dyson."