His email reminds me of his "not that you care" comment. As much as you've been wondering what's going on with him, he's now starting to wonder what's going on with you. No ring, have an appt lined up and are wanting to discuss the details of the move and telling D4. This isn't the Sue who used to take his bait and respond to his selfish manipulation! You're also no longer offering to work on the R, or telling him that you want to save the M. This has to come as a shock after years of depending on you to be there and available no matter what he does. I've no doubt that your independence and silent acceptance is throwing him for a loop. Good for you
The bad thing about people who manipulate.. they're pretty good at trying different things until they get the result they want. Be prepared for him to do or say anything at this point. Your H likes to get his way and if things aren't happening the way he wants, it will be you he tries to manipulate to fix it. Fortunately, you've seen the light and are too smart to fall for it.
