and you fell for it Truthfully, I can't imagine how it is for your W in a house full of men/boys. She's been a full time mom/wife for many years and now is making a career outside the home. She should get a lot of credit for doing that!
That doesn't give her the right to be Ms Crabmaster all the time.
Use your good traits - humor, wit, wisdom, sincerity - but don't skip filling her love tank with seriousness too. She is noticing your changes, your GAL. Don't shut her out. Unless you want too, and you do want out. That would be a good start.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.