Cat03 and puppy, thanks for checking in on me, I know puppy you think W will continue to use me (pull me out of work, etc to watch kids), I don't care, I know W would never hurt kids and I mean never !!! but there is one thing that does scare me, its when she ignores the kids, tunes them out. When the kids really start bothering her or she is depressed, she withdraws into her own little world, and the kids are off doing who knows what and I worry they are not being properly supervised.

NNP1965, please chime in anytime you want. If anything ever happens to me, W could afford to live very comfortably she is the beneficiary on my life insurance, I would expect her to step up and assume control, but you did give me something to think about, what if she didn't step up, I need to talk to her about this.

W called to validate "we are on the same page" told me she has to work Friday night and will be gone all day Saturday. WTF (excuse language ladies) I don't expect her to be anywhere, I come home from work and she leaves end of story, I don't need to know what she is doing. If she calls and wants kids great, if not I really don't care or expect anything out of her.

W called again, found a nice piece of furniture at second-hand shop. I asked her what it was, she said it was chair, you could use on a sun porch (we don't have a sun porch) or as a decorative chair somewhere. I told her I need to concentrate on the stuff I need, my basic needs, new beds for the girls, dinning room table, bedroom stuff for me, etc.

W called again, wanted help with her laptop (I bought her one last year) trying to learn wireless access, It was taking forever, finally found out she didn't have the wi-fi switch turned on. Once she was in, she was having some navigation problems, she was getting upset, and I was nice, told her she doesn't use the computer that often, that she would learn, etc. but I had to go. (I set up her e-mail account and passwords, so I have access to her e-mail,etc. I never look at her stuff)

My crazy old neighbor will get a laugh out of this one, \:\) when W wanted either neighbor or the neighbors friend to watch the kids for her, she would always tell them she had to go get a mammogram. Neighbor and her friend finally put 2 and 2 together that W was using them, I never got a doctors bill for any mammogram either. Last nigh at D9 softball game W was talking to a lady we know and I say up at the pool yesterday, I told lady I took off work to give W a break from the kids, and I thought I heard W tell this lady I took off work to watch the kids because she had to go get a mammogram.

We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never