Interesting if clashing ideas here Sage. That's why I love this BB, all kinds of opinions, all kinds of choices and options.
I really don't think your H is still hung up on OW. I get the sense (as someone said earlier) that his current "nose out of joint" is that he's been trying so hard with his ACTIONS, that your momentary backslide hit him really hard.
So, perhaps immaturely, he's pulling back. Perhaps thinking something along the lines of "I was doing XY ans Z and she is STILL insecure! Why bother!
Personally, I think that attitude SUCKS. CJ had a moment like that when I brought up my current dissatisfactions at dinner last week. I brought up the roller coaster analogy and he said it didn't feel like a dip, but rather a plunge we might not pull up from!!!
But we DID talk it out. He was still p!ssed the next morning, but when he read my posts about how good I felt about us in general for the last monthy it REALLY helped him. It let him know that I'm not a festering bag of insecurity, moaning and b!tching about him on here constantly.
Sage, really, the majority of your posts prior to this last glitch have been amazingly positive. Are you SURE he's been reading them? If he has, how can he NOT see that that night WAS just a backslide and not a catastrophe?
I rather liked your idea of letting him come to you this time. (After all you already DID apologize in an e-mail). I think that might be a 180?
What to do in the meantime, though? As mentioned earlier, perhaps the 'ol AS IF? Smile, be pleasant, expect positives but detatch some so that if he doesn't come around right away you don't let it affect YOUR PMA?
I KNOW you two will get past this, it's just such getting there!!!!
