And yes I have been letting her lead the way. She is trying to make plans for us to go to rioduso, just us two. And also she stated that she wants to see if we can find a baby sitter like once or twice a month so we can go out for a few hours. So like i said I'm very optimistic right now, just dont want to read to much into her words right now, for I still have a feeling she is'nt thinking clearly. She told me alot of things she has not told me before, last night, so it seems thereis starting to be a beginning to our commmunication problems opening up again. So I just told her well with the signs and signals you are sending me it is safe to say you want us to work on our relationship and move forward and she said yes. Because my wife is not vey talkative when it comes to things of this nature, but she told me she stated to realize the pain and hurt she was putting me through and it was not right. So I'm just trying to put it all in perspective right now. it is 31 days before we go to RETROU. So I'm going to keep my course of actions and stay low for right now.