that does have a lot to do with it... you need to know (and this is the truth LL is not bs artist) that you are good enough..you are loveable..you are sexy..you are smart...and a whole lot of other things too!!
hard as it may be one thing you have to keep in mind is that typically when a person has an a they also are insecure...
you know that you are less insecure since despite your past displeasure or with the r you didn't seek outside reasurances of your worth...
it is ok to be the rock that h leans on..
it is ok to be the strength in the r..
it is ok to be the glue...
Quote: yah, I think this is a possibility. it's not that I want to him to feel hurt and confused but this possibility is more comforting to me than thinking that he's confused because he's not sure he really wants to be with ME, loves ME.
I think (and I stress think) that part of the reason my h left was because despite all he was doing to show he wanted to make the r better I just wouldn't let go of the ow...I wouldn't stop throwing it back in his face. obviously all that did was push him right to her...
Quote: yah. no doubt. I'm trying. I've been saying for a while that I need to figure out an outlet for all of my confusion and sadness -- that doesn't include seeking solace from h. right now.
uhm? I think you've got at least one outlet here with us on the bb...let it all out...we don't mind and we certainly wont be dissapointed to hear your sad, mad, resentful, fearful etc...stuff. we are here to help you work through it all.
and in the event that you fear h reading it so you don't want to let it all out...I don't mind a phone call now and then...I understand your fears and honestly am much better at talking than writing anyway.
