Yes it's tough. Since I am out of the house right now it's a little easier to deal with. I don't have to see her constantly going out side to text him or whatever. If I lived there I would see those things. But I could start working on myself and she would see it...although I know she would see much of any of it in her cloud.
So my biggest decision now is to let her have the house but state my ground rules for no contact, finances, etc. Or move back in and reclaim my home. Any advice?
Lynn
RECLAIM YOUR HOME. Without a doubt. YOU did nothing wrong, Lynn -- why should you be the one to leave?
Reclaiming your home, and your bedroom and marital bed, will be the first step in reclaiming your self-respect. It will let your wife know that you're serious, and a man to be reckoned with.
Do so lovingly, but firmly. Do not yell -- no angry outbursts. Treat her like you would treat a relative, or a friend/roommate.
Don't engage in relationship talks.
Keep putting the ball squarely back in HER court: "End your affair, and we will talk about it." Say it over and over and over again. It will frustrate the crap out of her, but it DOES need to be the logical first step.
All the while, just work on YOU. GAL, be the better man, and be the absolute best father you can be. Fix things around the house that need fixing. Clean up after yourself, and pitch in on household chores, and then some.
