Grace,

I'll take the other side of the issue and say that I think it's fine to broach the subject with him.

But I think the wording of your message is a bit passive aggressive in that you seem to be suggesting that you are at fault when you really want him to get the message that he is at fault.

A note that simply expresses that you
a) understand it must be difficult for him to come to the house and then leave after visiting the girls
b) are hurt when he cannot even respond to a goodbye or a hello
c) that his lack of response is being picked up on by the girls in the way they interact with you
d) that you would appreciate it if the two of you could at least interact on the level of friends when he's there

would get your point across without the hidden messages.


I think all the other advice is valid as well, so I can understand you choosing to NOT communicate with him about this. My tendency is to at least try to guide the wanderer towards positive interactions, especially when the children are involved.


Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."