I'm with Talista on this one. Your H is really p!ssing me off, Sage, sorry but it's true!
I know I've said it before and it is probably not helpful at all, but I feel like he's using your vulnerability, your fears, as some kind of leverage, or a measure of how well your R is doing. NOT FAIR!
Does he respond at all well if you write out your feelings? Perhaps a gentle letter letting him know how MUCH you appreciate all the good, and would sooo appreciate some VERBAL reassurances from him?
I don't know. Perhaps you have a point and he is just not so sure of that himself. Somehow, though, I feel that his actions suggest he IS in this for real. I think he expects his actions to be ENOUGH for you, when clearly they are not.
So, a conundrum: How do you ask for reassurances (which IS NORMAL...if the bloody man would just READ some of this stuff!!! ) without A) making him feel that "nothing is ever enough" B) Risking hearing that he's not ready to give such reassurances.
