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Originally Posted By: dry_heat
Sparks are bad! And smoking.....


yep it stinks downstairs, left W a message so she doesn't wake me up.. what did you think about her texting and calling me.... kind of cool eh..(yes i know it's early to say anything )

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so, i just saw all the divorce papers .. W left them in the kitchen. The "grounds" are that i didnt attemnd counselling long enough in 2007...

hmmmm... and that right now i am attending couselling...

court stamped, just a matter of her serving them to me..

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thoughts on cutting W off from stuff like gym membership (my work reimburses).. our health care (I pay as couple), revoking W as beneficiary on life insurance. Cutting off her extra life insurance (I pay for it)..

I can leave her benefits (prescriptions)..because work pays for that, not me... thoughts? ideas?

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anybody? I know i am a pest, but my mind is a machine and thinks 24-7 ...

I saw everything this morning, i snooped and saw everything she wrote on those papers..

absolutely no text/calling/emails , i need to remind myself

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Not much time...

Don't do any of that stuff. It isn't going to help you reach your goal. Don't react like that, in her mind it will just prove her point.

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I just left everything status quo..

Last night when W came home, she and I were very pleasant, i tried not to initiate contact, but had to go downstairs to get a glass of milk. We chatted a little. She said did you wear your glasses today.. i said yeah.. she says you were just fishing for compliments at work eh... i said you know me too well.. (agreed)..

She is doing my ironing (tons of shirts and pants).. at home today.. i wonder how long now before those papers hit my hands..

When they do , Do i thank her, and say "fantastic, thank you" ..?

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Jeff, any suggestions on how to approach getting served?

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Originally Posted By: dry_heat
From the stuff you do say!

I'm going to the gym, doing yoga, blah, blah, blah...

You are doing so well, you don't even talk about her, and the troubles in the relationship!


W's cousin who i get along fabulously (sp)... told her feriend, Wow D's doing great"... but she claims not to have told W .. hmm oh well :P

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Originally Posted By: redsawks44
Jeff, any suggestions on how to approach getting served?

Do your best not to react, one way or the other. Try to remember that it doesn't cahnge anything.

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tonight : goto Yoga (relax)...

i know the court stamped docs are in her carry bag.. i will not react..

Here it does take one year for a D to be finalized..

with the market sucking so bad.. i have so much time to work on ME

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