Ouch, lynn. So sorry about the constant texts. So sorry.
You know, I have been thinking about your W's letter all night long. Its funny, but H and I actually fell into the 'plan' that she is proposing, without even discussing it. I will tell you, it doesn't work. Its awful at times. I just don't know how you would be able to do it and remain positive UNLESS she follows the guidelines that Puppy added, which I highly doubt she would. If you do agree, I would take the bedroom. Wouldn't it be so hard if she just didn't came home one night, but 'followed' the rules by staying out all night since she couldn't make it home by a reasonable hour?? That used to kill me, and knock me to the ground.
Just thinking out loud here. Its so hard, and no one is in your shoes. Only you will figure out what you can live with, and what is your absolute boundary.
