Quote: when I REALLY look at the impact of DB'ing on my m, though, I'm amazed at the wonderful progress that we've made -- h is talking, sharing, participating -- I'm listening more, calmed down, etc. I actually think that we've managed to add to our foundation in a way that we never have before.
that sound just about right to me sage,
in dbing we've become better listeners...better partners...have gained an understanding of how a r works when it works well...we are practicing all these "new" concepts in the day to day...the mundane...the painting of the house...we are practicing with the small stuff (ie when h made something your responsibility, you at first were bothered but then came to accept and understand and appreciate it)
we have to paint the house...keep up with the general housekeeping...learn to simply peacefully coexist BEFORE we can tackle the "issues" sometimes the "issues" work themselves out in the interum...the ones that linger...if we wait to address them...we will have a stronger grasp on the day to day...we'll be more connected with our s and therefore will be in a much better place to deal with the "stuff"
I rambled an awful lot there...hope it makes sense to you.
