Quoting talitsa: ______________________________________ ___________________________ For me the "let's see how it goes" business is more about their comfort level than ours. Working on our R before dealing with the huge issues in the aftermath of an A has often felt like we're painting the house up all pretty but ignoring the cracks still in the foundation.
when I'm having a hard time, I share this view about the painting/cracks in the foundation -- mostly around the fundamental issues that I mentioned this morning -- communication, the horrible cycle of needing reassurance/feeling as though that's controlling behavior.
when I REALLY look at the impact of DB'ing on my m, though, I'm amazed at the wonderful progress that we've made -- h is talking, sharing, participating -- I'm listening more, calmed down, etc. I actually think that we've managed to add to our foundation in a way that we never have before. I guess I just get impatient. and scared.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
