______________________________________ h has apologized on a few occasions. h has never expressed a recommitment to our m. in March, h said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be m. and, of course, two nights ago he brought up D. Not sure how serious he was about that or if it was for effect. ________________________________________
It's a quandry isn't it? One waiting to see if things get better before expressing recommittment and the other afraid because they don't feel safe until there is recommittment.
I'm not sure how to deal with breaking out of the cycle. I wish I could pass on something of value, but as you know, I'm in the same predicament.
For me the "let's see how it goes" business is more about their comfort level than ours. Working on our R before dealing with the huge issues in the aftermath of an A has often felt like we're painting the house up all pretty but ignoring the cracks still in the foundation.
