Grace, As far as your D13 is concerned regarding your standards, it is up to you to convey the message to her about what you expect. She needs to learn that she has to be respectful to you and there are no and ifs or buts about it.
Unfortunately although it would be ideal if your Husband supported you, but please don't have those expectations of him.
The Man has alot on his mind and is barely functioning.I am not making excuses for him, I am just telling you that things are not always as they seem.
Did you ever think that when he comes to the house to see his kids how difficult it is for him emotionally?
Do you have any idea how hard it is for him to have to leave his home after each visit?
For now Grace, try to be his friend.
Stay away from anything that involves him having to man up.
Stick to little things, like the weather, movies, etc.
Make your home a place that keeps making it harder and harder for him to leave.
Don't write the note yet....
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
