Jeff, it's more than time that you make YOUR life YOUR memories with the kids. Quit tormenting yourself going back to the places where you were a family.

Create your own life.
Create your own happiness.
Step out of your box.
Get over being bitter about the past, it will only give xw more reason to say 'see! I was right!'
Ok, I'll even say it - GAL! but make it your own.

Oh, and send pics or I'll make you come and work on my fences. ;\)

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.