What the hell did we women do to ourselves in the last gy enerations? Ok, now we can feel free to express the masculine aspects of our personalities and still struggle to suppress some of the female aspects to be able to survive in the workplace....
But when did we become afraid to be vulnerable? Why is it coming out sideways (in sarcasm and critisism, etc.) instead of outright and honest?
And what the heck have we done to our men? We've advanced in many ways, but they are lost...feeling like they don't know how to be men anymore. I really see it strongly in my culture because, even though we were more egalitarian than most cultures, it was only a few generations back that our men were protectors, providers, and warriors.
Now things have changed drastically. We've got to remember the best parts of being feminine--the ability to emotionally connect--and gor back to help our men along! We can't help them learn how to be intimate by demanding it or nagging them to do it. We sure can't show them how to be honestly vulnerable with us if we're showing bad examples of it ourselves.
There's a Dudley DoRight in every guy that wants to be a hero. I'm going to learn how to let myself be rescued every once in awhile ("I'll save you Sweet Nell!") and afterward, keep on with the gentle work of pulling that man out of himself so he can be more intimate with me.
And I think I'll show equal appreciation for both things.
