The right answer would be Yes.... it is the Godly thing to do to love others just as God loved us. Now applying that to us made of flesh and blood is a process. For some it is a very long process that involves stages of overcoming anger, hurt bitterness, and unforgiveness. No two people are the same and we all seem to reach one stage felling a victory only to find ourselves having fallen backwards in another.... and it just seems to cycle that way. Time truly is the great healer... and working through all of these feelings is essential to a healthy PMA.
Your split seems fairly fresh and this is just my .02, so gleen from it only what you deem necessary. H is probably feeling some guilt over ditching his family and thinks that being a friend will help smooth over any bad feelings you might be harboring. If you are still in love with him then you are probably still desperate in a way to hold on to anything that might remain of you as a couple. Tread carefully as you may be setting yourself up for disappointment with expectations you aren't even realizing.
Sorry this is so short... I have to get to work. I will try to check back in later. You should get lots of advice from those far wiser than I.... keep posting and praying.
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
