Hi, friend. I was thinking of you yesterday (before all this crap!) and wondering how you were doing in your sitch. I hope that you will give us an update when you are ready!
Quoting Jeannine: Perhaps your H will need a little time alone in his cave to lick his wounds and to regroup. But, if he has even a small ray of insight as to the amazing woman he married, he WILL come around, and hopefully this time he’ll be more aware of your LEGITIMATE need for assistance in healing from HIS selfishness.
TBH, I'm not convinced that my h thinks that he married an amazing woman. I'm often pretty sure that he thinks that he married an insecure, pain in the A$$ who pushes his buttons! Kind of the "more trouble than its worth" category. 'course, that could just be me feeling pretty sorry for myself.
I feel like I've learned so much about myself in the last year -- and grown as a result. I know that I still have much to do -- a la "I'll make a great wife for somebody!" I've seen how h. has blossomed, too. It's astonishing to me, then, how we can find ourselves in this extreme corner -- my still needing reassurance (verbal and other) and him just so unable to give it. I've thought to myself SO many times -- couldn't we just take one small step towards each other on this topic? Ah, well, perhaps I shouldn't be surprised -- many would say that I haven't grown much in MY need for reassurance.
Perhaps my h. feels as though this is what he's "doomed" to for the rest of his life -- I disagree -- but if so, I guess I can't blame him for stating that he wants out.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I'm often pretty sure that he thinks that he married an insecure, pain in the A$$ who pushes his buttons! Kind of the "more trouble than its worth" category. 'course, that could just be me feeling pretty sorry for myself. 
I've seen how h. has blossomed, too. It's astonishing to me, then, how we can find ourselves in this extreme corner -- my still needing reassurance (verbal and other) and him just so unable to give it. I've thought to myself SO many times -- couldn't we just take one small step towards each other on this topic? Ah, well, perhaps I shouldn't be surprised -- many would say that I haven't grown much in MY need for reassurance. 
