Glad something I said made some sense! I guess partly because I am trying to deal with me getting stressed and emotional with this week of waiting on H's decision about court date. I have lost it a bit for at least 2 of our times together. So been really trying to think on this one!

The D word being tossed out would really bother me too. We already have papers filed so I guess my H doesn't have to toss it out. Maybe since it was thrown out was heat of moment and not serious. But way of striking back as he was hurting also. Arguments are so hurtful, and non productive!

I do agree with LL on the way I have seen this work in our sitch. My H seems to really respond positively when I apologize first. Maybe I didn't do enough of that in the past and now have to make the first move to reconnect for him to not go back to feeling like same as in past! I may not feel that I am responsible for whatever the argument was but I AM sorry it degenerated into the crappy, emotional discussion it did!

Hope your day does pick up and you figure out what it is that Sage needs and wants!

I am sending you Peace for now!

Pam

"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned
so as to have the life that is waiting for us"