I just read what happened last night. You must feel drained to the core.
I agree with “holdingon” and “shineybear” in their initial reaction to what happened.
You cannot be expected to be superwoman all of the time, and for him to bring the D word into the environment after all the patience you have shown him is weak, weak, weak.
After Shiney gets done slapping him along side the head, send him my way and I’ll show him what a rage filled woman can do with a baseball bat!
How are you supposed to show 100% trust if he keeps the fidelity meter hidden from you?
I agree with what “psluke” said about being tired and dealing with a large emotional issue simultaneously. That combination often leads to explosions and off-the-path behavior. As LL pointed out, it does not necessarily mean all is undone. You both reached critical mass and needed to relieve some of the pressure. The fatigue just created a pathway for the release.
Perhaps your H will need a little time alone in his cave to lick his wounds and to regroup. But, if he has even a small ray of insight as to the amazing woman he married, he WILL come around, and hopefully this time he’ll be more aware of your LEGITIMATE need for assistance in healing from HIS selfishness.
Standing with you, Jeannine
P.s. How is it that so many men can sleep after something like that happens. That has always bewildered and annoyed me.
