Quote: There's certainly nothing healing about the way that the events unfolded last night...and so far, the aftermath is dramatically uneventful. I "slept" on the couch (amazing that I'm functioning on 4 hours of sleep!) and didn't talk to h. this AM. I don't expect to hear from him today at all. I'm going out this evening so it'll likely be a long day of no contact.
when events like this occur in my house..I also expect an uneventful day and sometimes week to follow...when I've had time to sit back and think about where my actions (or rather reactions) were comming from...being tired, a build up of bottled feelings, my own insecurities, my expectations of h etc etc etc...
I find that waiting for h to make the first move toward peace often builds more resentment in me...if I know that I am partly responsible for the "fight" even if I am not responsible for the "thing" that we were fighting about...then I can apologize at least for the way I handled things...that opens a door (sometimes) for h to feel more comfortable and know that all is not lost..that we can and will move beyond this little mole hill that his a presents.
