I am so sorry you had such a rotten evening! I truly hope this morning it is a little better between your H and you. Although I think there is always some residual just sort of bad feelings left inside. Hopefully calmer minds prevail!
Just throwing out a couple of thoughts, probably nothing too helpful as I was a bit shocked to read your post! I thought I was the only one that did the REALLY dumb, emotional crap! Umm. Wasn't calling you dumb but me!
It sounds like your afternoon was good. So a positive.
I think from what I have been reading on your posts lately a bit of these feelings have been building for you and I wonder could you have been tired last night and the feelings just took hold of your logic? I know that my H and I's emotional, sort of dumb scenes almost always happen when I am tired and probably he is also. Usually about bed time! Then of course we get no sleep and we are still tired. Neither of us is too capable at that time of dealing with all the emotions we have, let alone the ones our S have and are sharing! I don't have any good ideas on dealing with any of these feelings but do think when I am tired they are much more likely to come out unconstructively!
I was re-reading in DR last night and a part I guess I wasn't taking to heart was Michelle's instructions to strike when the iron is cold. So if emotions get high for me I can count on pushing H's buttons or doing more of same and not being constructive. Now to figure out what to do when an insecurity is pushed, how to try to do something else till brain works all feelings and emotions through to a more logical thought process? I wish I KNEW the answer to that one.
Ok, I'm definitely running on this morning. I hope something I said makes a little bit of sense! I am probably not thinking clearly at all this whole week!
I have faith from reading your threads that you and H are going to work through this thing and have a great relationship all of the time and not just part of the time!
Hope you have a great day!
PS IT JUST WAS A FULL MOON A DAY OR SO AGO!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Neither of us is too capable at that time of dealing with all the emotions we have, let alone the ones our S have and are sharing! I don't have any good ideas on dealing with any of these feelings but do think when I am tired they are much more likely to come out unconstructively! 
