Hey LL,

Thanks for your words of reassurance I know you can relate to what I'm going through so it doubly helps to hear your support and advice.

Quoting lostlove:
seems like you and h are able to talk about most things...but the ow topic still seems to bring up defensiveness...I went through the same thing and it only seems recent that I've been able to mention her and ask without him getting defensive...maybe it comes when you get closer to letting go of the ow really letting go of it...then they (the h's) don't feel as attacked (that isn't even the right word) or the bad for causing you this pain...so they are able to answer without being defensive.


Yah. we've made a ton of progress. discussions of ow remain squarely off limits, apparently. I can't believe how "back to square one" this feels. It's what I get, I suppose, for getting impatient and ahead of myself.

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don't think all is lost...it certainly isn't...this is just one part of the puzzle you and h are going to have to work on...and not necessarily together.


yah, it's true. I don't think we're gonna solve this one together...least not anytime in the near future.

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.