Excuse me, who HAD the affair??? You? I thought it was your H. Dbing or no, WE have feelings. I know we aren't supposed to act on our feelings, we are supposed to be these stoic people that act as if things are fabulous. In the meantime, the people that we shared every detail of our lives with, had children with, planned a future with, went out and broke every promise they made with us and left us broken in the floor while they were being intimate with someone else. How does this become our fault??
My H is screaming at me tonight, calling me names, giving me the finger because nurses are finding out about his A because my best friend is a nurse and I told her. OOPS, sorry, but GEE if you had not had the affair, would anyone be finding out about it???
I don't care, Sage, sometimes we just have to be the women we are. We just have to hurt. We just want to be held, loved, like they promised they would. This being strong, invincible all the time is just too hard.
Cry, honey. Because tomorrow you are going to have to stand tall and try to put things back like they were... hopefully, you'll be joined in the effort by your H, but as you know, NO expectations.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
