Well the dinner offer stands. I am 20 Min from the Detroit/Windsor border.
I am sorry about the H lying again. At least you know what is what. No matter how this works out (H come back and recomits / you get a D) you will be better off. LRT and going dark should be easy after the move. He is the one that is making the mistake not you. Don't carry guilt about this - You never forced him to have the A. THAT IS HIS DECISION.
The move went very well and it feels great to be back. I've been busy settling in, getting together with family and seeing friends. I've been so busy that I haven't had too much time to even think about H. I haven't initiated any contact with H since I've been back but he's called several times. He asked me to call when we arrived but I told him S would call him later after we had settled in. Well, I turned on my cell phone once I got off the plane and it was H calling. I scrambled to get it but didn't answer in time. He called a couple more times that evening before he got a hold of us. He's also called every day since then and I let S answer the calls. H has asked to speak to me each time and although I told him that we should have no contact for a period of time so that we can both sort through things, I feel badly when S hands me the phone and tells me dad would like to speak to me. No R talk and I've been quickly getting off the phone. He did say that he misses us and that he's going to be sending me an email re: his thoughts on what's happened. I do feel soooo much stronger now. I am keeping busy with several things lined up for the next week. All of this is helping me get my mind off my sitch.
HUGS to everyone - I'll try and catch up with all of you in the next couple of days.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I'm happy that the move went well and H was initiating LOADS of contact and you sound very, very good!
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I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Hurray! I'm glad you arrived safe and sound... and are getting your life and S's life back in order. I hope this renewed time apart will bring more clarity to your H.
It's good that your H is initiating contact with you. I know you told him no contact but the more you tell someone they can't do something the more they try.
Have a great time getting back into the swing of things!
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
