Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[mulesqb]

Thanks Bill - especially for the encouragement. It's been a rough day. When I got home I found out the full extent of what went on here and it's not pretty. Her Dad came over to help watch the kids as she had to take S14 to school for one final test. When she got home she had a total meltdown. Now let me preface that by saying that at the beginning of her menstrual cycle she has been getting over-the-top emotional. It's been going on for at least 6 months. She gets irrational and has one or two complete meltdowns. Apparently she had one today as S14 heard her yelling at my FIL. She was saying things like she doesn't want to be a wife or a mom anymore, she doesn't want anything (money), she wants to be alone, she doesn't respect me because I don't discipline the kids enough, the sight of me makes her want to vomit., she doesn't love me she has just been faking it. Apparently my FIL went back at her and said that he thinks I am doing the best I can with the kids under the circumstances and that they can't be treated the way she wants to treat them and that they are hurting and need love. He also said he thinks she is making the biggest mistake of her life because she needs help and is making some very bad decisions.

WOW I don't know what to say, but 2 hours later she called me at my office and cried her heart out to me and said things like - she is lost and can't find her way, she doesn't know how she got here, she is depressed, the kids are driving her crazy, etc...nothing about me. That's when I told her I loved her and posted earlier.

Now what do I do? I am going off the deep end here and have no answers. She did say she wants to leave and be alone and doesn't want anything. Quite honestly I would take that in a heartbeat, so we can each have time and space. I love her more than anything but this is killing us all. I don't think a therapist is enough, I really think she is on the verge of a breakdown. How can you "act" the way she did all weekend and then flip out and say those things??

Does anyone have any thoughts. I am struggling - but she is struggling worse - I want to help so bad - this is an awful, awful sitch. I am detaching right now. I'm on here and then will go to bed.

HELP!!!!

Bill - I was all set to give her the book tonight until I heard what went down here this afternoon.