Yes, Jayce has another appointment the beginning of the month. He turned the corner on his last visit (weight started going up again) so they monitor and adjust his meds accordingly. Poor little guy. He is a real lover this one. :-))
Everyone needs niche circle or area to move around in where they are among like minded people. Hopefully you have found yours and you can move forward with the items you have strived for.
Did you feel you were stuck for a while? Now you are at the other end of that bubble of work how do you feel about the cost/reward of your labor at this time.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
I am glad to hear Jayce's weight is going up. I am always afraid it is a kidney issue when a kitty starts to lose weight.
Yesterday, when I went to GF's across the street to help her unpack a tablescape set, we heard loud meowing at the front door. I open the door and there is Kitty Kay and Medea sitting there looking at me! I walked and they ran and jumped and wanted kitty snuggles. When I walked back into my neighbors - they both sat on the driveway and waited for an hour or two till I came home..
One or more of my cats do this everytime I go to visit with a neighbor. Sometimes I feel like I have broken some sort of curfew - as I get loudly meowed at for staying out too late!
I did have a very good time. Partly b/c this also included one of my hobbies - gardening.
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Did you feel you were stuck for a while?
I feel like there are multiple aspects to my life that I am living in parallel. For example, adoption, work, gardening etc. I move forward in some at times and at stuck in others. Usually I get into that black/white way of thinking "Oh no I am stuck in life" when I am feeling overwhelmed.
I also feel stuck in different parts of my life when I get caught up in all I have to do ahead of me - as opposed to seeing what I have already achieved.
I m very goal oriented and for the most part that helps create milestones that guide me forward and I can see how I am doing.
I am also a huge proponent of cognitive therapy - which is what I practice on the BB. I tackle whatever event is bothering me at the time and the associated feelings. I post it in raw unadulterated form. Then I post the thoughts that led to that event triggering me and lead to me feeling that way. Then I work on assessing and altering those thoughts thereby altering the feelings. Yes, there is a method to my posting madness. That is why you rarely see me having to revisit an issue once I am done processing it. That also make me feel more empowered and less stuck.
Anyway - this is probably more information than you expected!
One of my goals - and I am not sure I posted it was to get to the point with The X where - there was no longer anger left and I could actually look back and see there was a lot of not so great stuff and some good stuff. I did not want a B/W picture of my M.
I wanted to do this so I could also be more realistic in a future R. There will be good and there will be bad. I wanted to avoid that extreme type of thinking "oh no this isn't working - it is just like my M."
Forgiveness was not really my goal. B/c forgiveness is an affirmative action - my goal was to simple let the bad go - to let it just float away.
And lately I do sense a softening in my perspective. The M was simple one of many events in my life. There are things in my life that worked out well, some work out okay and some do not work out. The M fell in that latter category. No need to demonize The X. Perhaps we lacked the proper tools and/or maturity to make the M work. Perhaps it was just not a good fit.
While I picked most of the shrubs/trees in my garden. I will have to give The X credit where credit is due. He did plant a gagilion shrubs for me. And when he did things in the garden for me - it was an expression of his love for me. I didn't want to see that for awhile. You can shred pictures - but well I am not going to uproot trees and shrubs that he planted. He is the one that came up with the winding path idea and the idea of layering levels of beds - to create a foreground and a background.
Some parts of my M were very ugly - but some parts of it were good. And it was not an easy 5 years b/c his entire family died one after another from prolonged illnesses w/in 3 years of our M and essentially left him alone. He also no longer had a place to call home in Germany - so he also lost part of his roots. While that does not justify some of his reactions. We are all human and we all react and we all make mistakes.
I have changed my decision to take all of July off. I will work a reduced workload and take time off. That way - I can continue to maybe enjoy my weekends off the rest of the year.
I don't want to swing from one extreme to another. The goal is sustainable balance.
Life really is good! It feels like Monday for the first time in months - in that I had fun all weekend and now have to drag my rear back into work. It really is hard chasing all sorts of gardening throughts away from my brain! Yes - it is a "normal" Monday! Time for me to get serious about work.
We definitely agree on this. I generally attack things on a broad front which is probably less effective but that is the makeup.
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I move forward in some at times and at stuck in others. Usually I get into that black/white way of thinking "Oh no I am stuck in life" when I am feeling overwhelmed.
Usually when I am working too much even for me this is the result and often after the worst day there is a rebound.
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That way - I can continue to maybe enjoy my weekends off the rest of the year.
My favorite schedule was FRI, Sat, Sun on the beach and Mon - Thurs off. We did that in late April thru early May and loved it.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
TODAY, I received a certified copy of the very first patent I drafted after starting my own firm almost three years ago!
This copy will go the the client of course. I may have to order one for myself.
And as I was depositing some checks at the bank - I saw the date and started to wonder why it sounded familiar. I am really bad about remembering dates - always have to write everything down in my calendar. I always remember that my D was granted some time in June... So I pulled out the old D decree. My D was granted exactly 5 years ago today.
How unusual - my very first patent and my D share a date.
I will be getting the front page of that patent framed and hang it in my office. I have drafted over a 100 patent applications during the course of my career. This one - well is special.
So the question is "Am I better off today than I was 5 years ago?"
Absolutely without a doubt - YES!
I will be going out with a GF to celebrate the issuance of The First Patent!
