Do they EVER take ANY responsibility for ANYTHING?? Like SueS said on her thread - she is always getting blamed.
Well of course you have to be blamed. It's would be too difficult to D you otherwise. You have to expect this. It's really normal. It's to cause fighting and tension to make the D easier for him. Don't give him that satisfaction. Say you are sorry it appears that way I've never intended anything like that... and then just smile, listen and let him rant. Just say okay and yes.... Imagine your H as some spoiled child that nothing you do can make him happy. Just humor him, let him rant and rave and stay pleasant. Take nothing personal. Don't let him get you mad because that's what he wants.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
