Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

[Scott123]

SD,

The friend I was talking to was not an affair. She seriously is only a friend.
She is engaged and regardless of that we've never had any
kind of romantic feeling for each other. She's actually
like a sister.

When my wife told me months ago about an OM and her EA, I forgave
her and we made a mutual agreement to not seek support outside
of our marriage. I told her that I would even cut ties with my friend
and I did. It really sucked, but I did it anyway because I love
my wife. I have not talked to her since then. My
wife thinks I talk to her, but I honestly don't and have not
since we made that agreement with each other.

The support I was referring to was not really emotional on my part,
I'm talking about support with my health. She helped me stay
on track with my nutrition, did a lot of research with me,
helped with a mood/food log and helped me keep a positive
attitude and focus on getting healthy etc. She does not
even know about this last setback, like I said I have not
talked to her in a very long time. Even though it was not
the correct treatment, it still helped me on the road to
finding out the real problem.

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After moving some more stuff out, my wife was clearly anxious
and annoyed. She was really being a total jerk to the girls too.
Nit picking and yelling at them for really no reason. I feel
really bad for them as they are the ones who are going to
suffer the most. I just keep telling them not to take it
personally and try to stay out of her hair as best they
can.

She asked me for money too since she pretty much emptied her
bank account. I just said do you need something? She said dog
food and some other stuff so i said i would grab them because
I was going out again and she got annoyed at that. She
basically wanted the cash. She just blurted "fine, but I'm
going to need money until I get paid" and I said I don't
have any on me, but we'll work something out.

I have no problem helping my family, paying bills and getting
what is needed. However, obviously I have a serious problem
with giving my wife any cash at all because of the gambling.
I can see this really getting her angry. Any advice on
that aspect? I don't even want to mention gambling because
she will literally fly of the handle and just attack me
about it and it will just be a major backslide. Even my
friends and family agreed that I should definitely not be the
one who says anything at all about the gambling for now. they
are still trying to figure out what to do in that regard. Right
now she has no money and I can see her mood really swinging
over the next couple of days because of that. The kids are going
to be in for a real storm.

Another thing - she knew I was moving all of this stuff today
as I had boxes and stuff all over the house. Right in the middle
of moving stuff she took the van pretty much ALL DAY running
all over the place. I hardly even moved anything because of
that. It's like she did it on purpose. Maybe because it's
starting to sink in that it's not going to be as easy as
she thought. I even called her and said I needed the van back
because I had a lot of stuff to move and she snapped and said
I have things to do and hung up. For someone who wanted me moved
out ASAP she sure isn't helping. (that's when she went to the
casino as I posted before my friend drove by and saw the car)

- Scott