Sage - at 7+ months it seems entirely reasonable to me that you would be able to ask - and entitled to know - if the OW was still lurking in the wings. It's possible that H's lack of response was something my H alluded to once - that he felt like if he was going to be accused of the deed anyway, he might as well be doing it? Crazy, I know - but they struggle with feeling guilty and wanting to be trusted. And when it comes after a GOOD behavior - it feels like you just invalidated all their good behavior.
So - a better approach? Sometime when you're NOT drunk, maybe in writing, just express that you do still have some concerns, don't mean to be paranoid, but would like to hear from him the status of his contact with OW. Tell him you're sure he understands why you feel unsure about this. And remind him how important honest communication is to your growing new R.
