and don't look at past patterns as you may be surprised...
but IF h does retreat let him for a bit...but if it gets to be more than you can take...simply say..."I wasn't asking you about ow to acuse you of doing anything wrong..I am just still having some trouble dealing with things...maybe I'm still a bit insecure about it"
maybe he will respond and maybe he wont...
maybe his silence was becuase the mention of ow and your doubts about him kinda put a damper on the evening??
I know you want to ask about ow...and at some point you should be able to ask..and h should be able to give you an answer of some kind...
I've been looking at your sit with some envy for a while now...and having said that I'll let you know that after my last c session with h...the one where I left thinking oh great now h will retreat for a week or so as a result of the truth of my feelings comming out...sure he was silent for a long while...I stayed silent too..eventually he did speak and what he said spoke volumes.
it's ok to feel insecure in regard to h and ow and the question of "are they still..." with time it will pass...it is also ok for h to feel a bit bad when you question him about it...his silence doesn't mean they are still in contact..could just mean salt has been thrown into that wound that he'd rather forget.
let's put the ow's to rest...they are not part of our lives anymore...be done with them!!
