abbysdad - you are right. I've known this all along and again, avoided wars with them to keep peace. I cannot believe that I am somehow the villian here.

also, just found out that ow and her daughter SLEEP over at h's apartment every weekend when d's there. I know this for a fact. what should I do about this? let it go? I calmly talked to h and said it's only been FOUR months since he dropped initial bomb!! I can't believe he doesn't have the common sense with regards to this.

I haven't told lawyer. should i modify custody agreement? so furious. h has no since of right or wrong. I would NEVER introduce a new person in this way to d. I would do it in a slow manner at least. I can't believe this.