Is there any chance for you to come up with the overdraft?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
She's getting a healthy dose of reality for the first time in her life, and I need to let her go through it. Another side note is that the gas well is drying up. How much further down is rock bottom for my W? As hopeless as I feel right now, I'm glad that she feels she can share this stuff with me.
Very good positives all around.
While it's great to take responsibility for the debt you brought to the M, don't forget her credit card debt is hers, and her medical debt is really hers. I'm not saying don't help her out or support her emotionally, I'm just saying, don't let her blame you for ALL of it either.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I don't recommend BK for anyone unless it is absolutely necessary, but let me know if you need the information. (((Jon))) sometimes you have to let them be responsible for themselves.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm guessing that she'll be able to arrange something with the CC company without getting near BK. I do find it interesting that she managed to get to the point of a collections agency before she realized she had a problem. She must have been ignoring things for a while. She needs to call them, and work something out. They just want the money!
Is there any chance for you to come up with the overdraft?
No. I actually had to move some things around to send her $200 last week. $8,000 is way beyond what I can do. And why aren't her parents helping her out? One of the reasons she moved home was for financial help. I'm wondering how much more of this she can take.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I'm guessing that she'll be able to arrange something with the CC company without getting near BK. I do find it interesting that she managed to get to the point of a collections agency before she realized she had a problem. She must have been ignoring things for a while.
Isn't that the truth? I really had to bite my tongue on that one. "What the hell were you doing?" probably wouldn't be good
Originally Posted By: dry_heat
She needs to call them, and work something out. They just want the money!
I told her this also. She met with a financial counselor on Friday, and he told her some options.
She summed it up last night by saying "I just wanted you to be aware of all the trouble you caused". BS. That card had no balance when we separated. Then she put a new car and a boob job on it. And now it's my fault somehow.
Michelle, I agree. This could all be seen as positive. I just wonder how much she can screw things up before she wakes up.
Thanks everyone. Took care of some insurance stuff today, they wanted to verify that her headaches weren't from a car accident. They can sure come up with every roadblock in the book before paying out any freaking money.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Oh don't you just love that one??? Okay, HELLO, I was NOT there by myself. I was not holding a gun to your head saying
spend
spend
come on you know you want to buy something else....
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Oh don't you just love that one??? Okay, HELLO, I was NOT there by myself. I was not holding a gun to your head saying
spend
spend
come on you know you want to buy something else....
Isn't the blame game fun? My W knew that D wrecks finances (watched her parents go through it), but she's still choosing it.
It's funny that all our dear WAS'S do the same things. Like they're reading the same book or something.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
