And the day came ...

[sage]

Sage, be warned, I am breaking out the 2X4.

Jeez, Jim, thanks for the warning and all but couldn't you have given me a cyber hug instead???

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And all I can say about all of that is BULL!! I read about all the wonderful things that are going on between you and your H. How you guys can talk, how he listens, how he wants to spend time with you, how he is going out of his way to do special little things for you. And so I call bull on you.

And I deserve that. You are totally right.

You are jealous of jethro? Do you realize that most of us here would give anything to have 1/100th the opportunities you have right now? You have all these worries and insecurities. Well guess what? Most of us have these same worries and insecurities justified on a daily basis, with their words and actions, and usually in an extremely blunt fashion.

Point also taken. I know that my sitch has progressed well...and is in better form than lots of people's on the boards. I AM grateful. And I AM working hard every day to notice the wonderful stuff around me AND keep my worries and insecurities in check AND DB AND .... you get the point. Thank you for reminding me to stop and smell the roses that I have.

So you need to get with the program. I have been following Jethro's sitch for a long time, back when we were both still in newcomers. There is nothing you are going through that he hasn't gone through before. I see the same slow progress in your sitch that I saw in his. Let's look at the positives.

He has owned up and taken responsiblity for his actions.
He didn't leave you for her.
He is working with you to make your marriage a better thing.
He is showing love to you on a daily basis.

yes.yes.yes.yes.

I will get off my soapbox now, and say that I really think you have so much to be grateful for, if you just sit back and look at things, and not worry so damn much.

2x4 message delivered. I thank you for it!

If my h. were reading this now he'd either be laughing or crying because we're talking about one of the things that he's raised as an issue -- my worries, fears, insecurities,etc.

I DO want to acknowledge, if only for myself, that I think that MANY of my posts on my thread are positive. I think that I HAVE been doing a much better job of calming my own fears, reinforcing h's awesome hard work, etc. Heck, even in the particular post we're talking about I go on and on about KNOWING that I'm making this harder on myself, ignoring what progress we made,etc.

I'm trying. and sometimes I'm succeeding.

Sage