Yes, I've been keeping up with you, just haven't had time to post much.
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** Right now i am not resisting H doing his own thing how he wants to. My feeling is that resisting/reacting to this arrangement right now will only push me further from my goal.
Yes, I think you're going about this in the most positive way possible. Resistance would only be met with resistance.
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This path causes my couple of good friends who know what's going on to be frustrated with me...they both think I should kick H to the curb. But I just see that having enormous negative repercussions, and making my very stubborn H just that much more convinced that being with OW is the way to go
That is the common response from those on the outside looking-in, isn't it. We all see where doing what other's think you should do gets you. Doesn't mean you don't establish boundaries, etc., but I think you already know that.
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I am sooo tired of my sitch...and find myself feeling like all the effort has been for naught. However, I know that that attitude is going to get me and my kids nowhere fast, so I've got to jump back up and work up an action plan for this new phase.
The happier & more content you make your life right now will have the most impact on your R, so yes, jump right back up.
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had Ss call BIL yesterday to invite him/SIL up for July 4th (?!WTF?!)
That's so strange, maybe it's time to let him know you know. Haven't thought that completely out yet though. What do you think?
Take Care,
Sunny
Internet went down just as I tried to send this earlier, hopefully this'll make it.
