- up until then, I had been the ideal wife despite my unhappiness. I also didn't want to hurt him, because (believe it or not) women in general tend to want to look after everyone else's feelings first and put themselves last...
yes, indeed we do that don't we?? In hindsight, I called that woman I use to be, 'martyr wife'. Check out the difference between a martyr and a victim.
1- What do you need H to do in order for you to feel the intimacy, respect, and care as a partner in the R? What can you do to provide intimacy, respect & care for H that is healthy for you to do?
Now if H could do those things for you? Is he the kind of man you would want to be in a R with? If, yes, then...
2- Write those things down and ask him if there is a time that you can share those things with him.
hopefully that may help your soul-searching and maybe your heart-to-hear talk with H.
As Lodo says, let some of what is directed towards you roll off your back, you will find support here.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
