H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

Thanks Ingrid. When I said angrily that I wanted bad things to happen to her (have apologised since) he said that she had already had plenty of bad things happen to her already. It just hit me that this is a real person, with a real life, and he loved her.

I just said just because she had had bad things happen it didn't give her the right to sleep with a married man for 3 years.