I want my turn instead of just giving up my place in line so someone else.. him, my parents, my in-laws, my kids can have another piece of the resources- my time, energy, or support- I have to give in any given day. I want my resources for me for a change. I know I am the only one who can choose where they go & who gets them and I am choosing me & my kids.
I completely 100% agree with you doing this. This was exactly how I "saved myself first". I felt rather guilty at first, but I was in survival mode. I also found out that when I stopped doing "everything" H started doing more. I enabled him & I didn't even realize it.
I talk about having the bone dry empty love bucket. I'm sure yours is bone dry as well. If you don't start filling it up yourself, nobody else will. Besides that, the best thing you can do for your kids, is to take really good care of their mom.
Can I hang with you guys since I'm a student now ?
Hugs.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
