Hanging out with LBS - Good or Bad?

[lost3031]

H gave me an ultimatum - quit my job (since OM is a co-worker, although we don't have to see each other because we don't work in the same building) and have no contact with OM. If he hadn't told me to quit my job, I might have been more open to his ultimatum. I love my job and I have a lot of friends there; also, I make good money which would ultimately allow H to work less. When I couldn't say yes to his ultimatum in the 5-minute window he allowed me, he basically gave up. Yes, I know that if I really wanted to save my M, I would be willing to give up anything - even a job I love. Don't think I haven't thought about that, too...

As for the new, exciting and promising feelings of a relationship with OM - I don't necessarily know if that's true in my case. OM and I have been friends for over 3 years now and know pretty much everything about each other, so I clearly know what I would be getting either way. And I've always kept a partial lock on my emotions when it comes to OM because I know that I still love H and I don't want to confuse myself more until I know where things with M stand. I'm a big enough mess as it is!