We're being pretty frank with you Scott, but it will help you. We wouldn't bother if we didn't think you could do it and/it would be worth it.
I know and I sincerely appreciate it... want you all to know that.
Where's a bit of an update.
In the morning and was pretty miserable. I was making breakfast and she started doing the dishes, which she cannot stand. (earlier I mentioned how she rage/cleans when she is mad)I told her I was intending on doing them as soon as I finished eating and told her let me because I know she hates to do them. She just snapped and said no, I don't care. So I let it go.
She left to take our friends daughter to a Dr. appointment and the friend called for her a while later and I said she was not home. We both wondered if she went to the casino, so she actually drove by and saw the car there.
I called the bank to check on the account she uses and there was only 10 dollars left in it! And a bunch more transactions to the casino. I also noticed another 400 dollars unaccounted for.
I said nothing of this when she came home. I simply continued packing my stuff up. She was in a "fake" happy mood. You know how you know someone close to you is really faking their mood. That is what she was doing.
I did not talk to her at all. I will briefly before I leave just as suggested to tell her that I will be there for her to talk and lean on as a friend. That's pretty much all I'm going to say to her.
I did talk to the kids today and they were really hurt that I was leaving, they kind of thought things would just smooth over in time. I told them I'd always be there for them no matter what any time day or night. We were all crying. I told them I'm not going to lie to them and that I did not know if mom and I were going to get a divorce or not and had no idea what was going to happen between us in the future. I just told them we'll take things one day at a time and a stressed that they need to be as understanding as they can and not take anything out on her. I said you already know she is really stressed and moody and it has nothing to do with them. I just said if she gets bad that they should go do something to take their mind off it and I told them to do their best to night fight with her. Hopefully they will listen.
BTW- they know nothing of how serious the gambling is, but I know they sense something is not right beyond just our relationship. Mainly because of how she is neglecting them and constantly bickering with them and always going out. That's why they give her a hard time.
I'll post an update tonight after I move some of my stuff.
- Scott
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