Long story short, H accidentally hit on a friend of a friend of mine on Saturday night. We had been out with this woman and her H numerous times in the past (as couples). H had no clue, until she (amen!) said "I am friends with your W, Mr. LWB. I can't believe you don't remember that" and he completely freaked out and left the bar. Wow. I thanked my friend for sticking up for me. I am mortified even though I know its all him. I cried hard when I heard about this.
lwb- Sorry about hearing this too. I'm even more sorry to tell you that I somewhat know what this feels like. When H was going through his first A, he spent a weekend downtown Chicago with a buddy of his. A friend of mine (guy) that lived in the same neighborhood ran into them at a bar. My H was over talking & flirting like crazy with a woman. He told my friend not to tell me that he'd seen him. Turns out that my friend also knew the woman my H was flirting with. Thankfully she had little interest and was glad that my friend clued her in that H was married. It just sucked hearing that. Not only was H in an affair, but like this time, is out hitting on other women.
Hugs to you!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
root, he moved to his dad's right after the Disney trip (February). He didn't want to, but finally did. But...he spends a couple nights here (on the couch) when it helps him (if I work til 1am and he has to work at 4am the next day...silly to drive an hour, when he could just fall asleep with the girls).
Sue, thanks.
Hope, good job! The walk was probably hot as well. I'll find you soon!
Does he ever talk with you about his personal life? Were there any signs before that he might be someone who would potentially "bend" morality, or found risk exciting. I think it's kind of interesting how he seems to be hooking up with married women as oppossed to single ones.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
root, we don't discuss much past the kids, money, and the divorce. Every once in awhile he talks with me about his job or sometimes going out with friends.
There were NEVER signs that he would choose this path, bend his morality. In fact, like others, he was disgusted by infidelity and actually dropped a friend because he cheated on his wife. But yes, hooking up with married women baffles me too.
There were NEVER signs that he would choose this path, bend his morality. In fact, like others, he was disgusted by infidelity and actually dropped a friend because he cheated on his wife. But yes, hooking up with married women baffles me too.
Does he ever comment about the contradiction of who he was and what he has become? Or is he just oblivious? My W is somewhat aware that she was not the kind of person that would act as she has. But then again, it hasn't changed her actions. The mind of a WAS continues to baffle me as well.
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gForce, while he never officially apologized for the A (it was justified since I am a horrible wife, dontcha know...), he said he was stunned that he became *that* person, never ever thought he would cheat on me. But he said that long ago, almost a year ago.
Sounds almost exactly like what W told me. Sorry for the crap she put me through, but never sorry for the infidelity. I wasn't there for her, but OM was (so it is ok??). Never thought she would cheat, but hey, now that I have I won't stop.
Who says people can't change?
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