You have found a safe place, a place to heal and to grow and find hope. hoosiermama is right - the resources on MLC are so helpful. I wish I had come here in the beginning and found them, instead of 1.5 years into my journey, but it has made all the difference in my life. I found the Six Stages of MLC especially helpful, as I knew nothing about MLC until my coach pointed my in that direction. Most will say to ignore the timelines, but I found them to be slightly reassuring, though then my H seemed to follow the script to a T.
I have to agree w/ MrsH, that you need to be aware that OW is pretty likely. It sucks, but MLC seems to follow a pattern that is repeated with uncanny accuracy in many cases. Learn as much as you can - it can only help you. But don't share what you learn w/ your H - he won't hear you.
And prepare yourself for an amazing yet frightening process of self discovery. It's hard to imagine it now, but you will survive and if you take care of yourself and do the work, you'll come through having metamorphisized into a new, strong, independent person who knows who she is
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08
