I just received an email from my H saying that he wanted to move forward with mediation to get a legal seperation. After I recieved the email (classy way to deliver the news) I called him and told him that I just wanted him to be happy and if this is what he wanted then I would go along with it. I asked him how serious his relationship was with the other woman. Here is the really sad part....he said that he has seen her only a few times over the months. Yes, it has been physical but he has no interest in persuing a relationship with anyone (including me). He is working on himself only. That is the focus of his journey. I had to wonder if SHE knew that he felt this way. I can not believe how far he has fallen, to toy with peoples emotions the way he is without regaurd to the pain he is causing. Again, the only sliver of hope that I have is that he is in IC and looks forward to his weekly sessions. I hope one day he will see his way through the fog.
It really is scary that this possibly could end in a D, but its not over until I decide that it is over for me.
I'm so sorry to hear your news today BH!!! (((((BH)))))
Well if you think your H has no class delivering the news by email, I think my H is worse (not telling me at all). He does sound very MLC or confused; I think my H is also, yes involved with an OW, but also just wanting to be single and have less (hardly any) responsibility and maybe your H is like that too?
I think you're right in that your H has to work this out himself and if he decides he can't be involved with anyone, then what can you do? I guess just focus on trying to make yourself as strong and healthy as possible so you will be ready for whatever happens. I think it is good he's seeing an IC..Do you think they are any good or helping him? Karen
