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[Bworl]

You're doing what can be done right now. You care for yourself and move on with living your life as though he will not be back.

There is no cure for the ache inside. No number of hobbies or GAL activities will eliminate the loss that you feel. Only time will help there. I found a great relief inside in finally accepting that this was not ME, but somethine wrong inside of the spouse who walks out. It's natural to wonder what we could have done differently, and there usually are some things we could and should have straightened out in US, but that is NOT the crux of the matter here.

And yes, I'm sorry to chime in with MrsH and tell you that there is in all likelihood already a relationship going on in some form, whether it's with his assistant or another person. Very few of these people walk away and stay alone. Your husband is looking for a rush, a high that brings back the kind of excitement that he used to feel in his younger days. There's nothing like a new relationship to get that fix.


If you are a person of faith, I encourage you to turn to God for peace and companionship. My faith was restored during my situation and was crucial in my being able to process the nightmare that our family was going through.


Let him contact you, otherwise leave him be. If you begin to notice any danger signs like large expenses taking place, it may be time to consider protecting yourself financially. Otherwise, let this unfold and take extremely good care of yourself. Try to make interactions with him as positive as possible and let him see that you are surviving quite well without him.


Blessings,

Bill