Until you are more concerned with doing the right thing and fighting for your marriage than you are for what either "feels good" or "doesn't upset your wife," you have almost no chance.
So what would you do at this point? Kick her out of the house? Tell her I want to save our marriage while you seem to want to destroy it?
Lynn
ME: 37 W: 32 S11 D6 Together: 14 yrs. Married: 12 yrs. Previous PA: 8 yrs. ago Previous EA: 1 yr ago