Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[mulesqb]

So you had a great weekend, marred only by what your son overheard the neighbors wife talking about with your wife.

Exactly - and it was a 10 year old's interpretation. He was very excited this weekend because it looked like things are improving. But given our history lately, I don't trust anything.

you should be cautious about assuming that her behavior this weekend means that things between you are thawing. Continue to be detached (and yes, I think you're definitely getting it) and life your life as if everything will be fine.

I agree with this 100%.

Hopefully the therapist will continue to help. But that really is a matter between your wife and the therapist. Nothing you can do about it either way.

I was wondering if you thought I was right in not asking any questions. Like you said there is nothing I can do anyway.

I can't figure what the best approach is with the neighbors. It does appear as though there is no longer any "romantic" issue between the H and your wife, but there is definitely a harmful influence. I would agree that your wife sees their life as much more carefree than hers and probably desires that.

This feels like my biggest dilemma. Just the way she changed her personality on the phone with them and then back when she hung up was scary. Don't think that I haven't felt the three of them have this big scheme to figure out a way that she can divorce me and end up with a great financial settlement. It is possible they could be giving her a ton of input. I just felt that she was definitely feeling closer to me and a lot of the negative emotions may have disappeared. But who knows, she could also be acting, just seems like that would be a lot of work.

Sounds like you did well. Stay strong.

Thanks - in a better place than last week - but not yet where I would like to be. I got slapped down with that legal sep talk.