Originally Posted By: lost3031
Was (is?) it better to have little or no contact?



I'm not lodo, but I would say it depends on each of your goals..

if your goal is to move along with your lives through divorce, then band-aid off quick would seem to be best, (hard to do because we don't want to hurt those we care about do we?)

if your goal is to spend time together to see if changes made are enough to stay in a relationship with each other, then the pain may be worth the eventual pay-out.

But be clear and honest with yourself & your efforts in either case, as saying you are doing the 2nd but in reality just avoiding causing the pain of the first... then the eventual deception will cause more pain than the first one would have ever caused.


Does that make sense?



Last edited by Bridgestone; 06/23/08 05:27 PM.
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