Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

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Hi Scott, I only have a minute but I want to get back with you. I largely agree with Bill.


As others have said, your wife has experienced your interactions as abuse. YOU experienced it as an illness.

I do have compassion for you, Scott, it is extremely difficult to go through what you've gone through, and feel you have found an answer and feel you have not been given a chance. It's also extremely difficult to go through what you've gone through and feel you didn't have the support you've needed from the person you love the most.

Your wife also went through this without having you to support her through it. And she can come back with lots of folks have diabetes, gluten intolerance, celiac disease, alcoholism, and lots of other things WITHOUT being abusive.

You have a better chance of making progress with her if you own that and very slowly build that trust with your actions. Right now your words are not going to make much difference, at least in a good way, so you want to say as little as possible.



So just use this:

if she needs to talk to me or
needs someone to listen to or lean on I will be there for her
as a friend




On a further note....protect yourself against her gambling, but otherwise don't be mean financially. Guys who get super tough about that lose, especially with a WAW, even if they initially win.